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For what you would think a lawyer should be like, Ted is a gentle man.

I spent close to a quarter of a century in civil intelligence and spent my fair share of time being torn up for s--t paper by lawyers in court, so when you came up against a solicitor like Ted, with his softly spoken, polite questions, you'd be on full mental alert just waiting for him to turn on you like a bad tempered storm.

I'm led to believe though that usually, it was only after he politely thanked you when he'd finished his cross examination and you sat down a sigh of relief at having gotten off so easy that with a start, you'd suddenly realize he'd just led you to admit something incredibly stupid that he was going to use to bring your world crashing to an end.

However, I was never crossed by Ted in court but in every conversation we had, I'd wait for the twinkle in his eye to appear and for him to say something like, "Really? I hadn't realized that before ..." and THAT was the trap.

Ted was an very informed man and even though he'd ask questions about hypnosis, spirituality or metaphysics, you can bet he'd done his homework before asking for clarification on anything.

 
 Coaching Ted through how to take a selfie using a cell phone at NGH Convention in Massachusetts. This was probably Take 8 or 9 as he wasn't particularly comfortable with digital devices.

Coaching Ted through how to take a selfie using a cell phone at NGH Convention in Massachusetts. This was probably Take 8 or 9 as he wasn't particularly comfortable with digital devices.

How we met

In 2013, our friend Ines Simpson of BC was offering the Simpson Protocol course at the Ontario Hypnosis Centre in Toronto and like most of us do, she offered a free seat to graduated students to sit through the course again as an update. 

As a matter of fact, before she found fame with her Protocol, I had taken the Simpson Protocol from Ines when it was a one page handout and a demo at the National Guild of Hypnotists summer learning institute in Massachusetts. It's now a 4-day course.

However, this time she had added an EFT tapping segment to the course, so I booked a (free) seat.

Ted was of course the expert on EFT and over the afternoon of the first day when he presented his segment, the 25 or so of us were all tapping away on ourselves, grinning like drunken fools and repeating out loud, "Although I feel pretty dumb doing this, I don't care what other people think. As a matter of fact, I feel pretty great that I don't care what other people think about me ..."  

Later that day we posed for the inevitable pictures and when it came my turn, Ted, about a foot shorter than me, slipped his arm around my waist and said, "I don't quite know why, but I like you. We should get together and chat."

We did, and became fast friends after that, solving the problems of the world on Skype from time to time, or belabouring the subject via texting, with him staying at our home when he came to the Canadian Hypnosis Conference, and dining together nightly at the NGH Convention in the US.

 A view from Ted's deck over the water at his Lake House.

A view from Ted's deck over the water at his Lake House.

his lake house ...

Ted owns a 4-bedroom, 2-story cottage on Hedges Lake (which is next to Dead Man's Pond, he wrote) in New York state that his father, also a lawyer, built for the family years ago.

He invited us to spend the weekend there with his companion Joan and we finally got our schedules together over the joint US/CAN long weekend in 2017 and drove down.

It was a very lazy weekend spent lounging around during the day with Ted doing EFT on my wife and I, me doing regression and ego state hypnosis work with him, discussions on where to have dinner, then sitting on the dock watching the fireworks on Saturday night (the Americans DO like their fireworks!).

All in all, we talked about transitioning to the next phase of our lives, about the intent of the universe, our life plans to the extent we guessed we knew them, about how to go about finding the Creator quicker & faster, about President Trump (DO NOT mention that name around Ted!) and inevitably, again, where to go for dinner.

Despite his logical left brain training, Ted admitted he enjoyed living in the right brain which he regularly found at his Lake House. He didn't invite many, if any, to his hideaway, and we were honoured that he shared his "away" place with us.